7 Lies You Should Stop Telling Yourself

We all tell lies occasionally and usually, they’re harmless white lies. You know, like telling our boss we’re on our way when we haven’t actually left the house.

We also lie to ourselves each day. We tell ourselves that we’re going to start eating sensibly on Monday, or we’re going to start writing our first novel in January. Perhaps we blame our parents for our current financial mess even though we haven’t lived with them for the last 20 years. Or we decide that, if we only had a swimming pool, we’d be happy forever.

Some lies we tell ourselves that are damaging. By believing them, we delay actions we need to take or personal responsibilities we need to acknowledge. Take a look at this list and see if you recognise any lies you tell yourself:

Lie 1 – I’ll pay it off next month, so it’s fine if I buy it now

Using debt to purchase anything is a serious matter. It’s easy to convince yourself that you’ll make up for it by making lunch at home for the next month, or staying in for several weekends. However, we rarely seem to stick to these promises.

● Debt has tremendous potential to snowball. Avoid using debt as much as possible.

Lie 2 – I’ll start on Monday

Whether it’s a diet, a budget, an exercise plan, or any other undertaking, it’s often a lie to tell yourself that you’ll start on Monday. Of course, Monday might not be your day of choice. Some people really prefer the first of the month or the first of the year. Whatever future day you pick, you’re probably lying to yourself.

● If it’s worth doing at all, it’s worth starting right now.

Lie 3 –  It’s all my parents’ fault

There’s no doubt that some people are lousy at the job of parenting. But you’ve probably had plenty of opportunities to put your life back on track. Putting the blame for your present situation on parents, ex-partners, old colleagues limits your future.

  • There is plenty you can do today to make your life better.

Lie 4 – If I just had (fill in the blank), everything would be perfect

Once you have the money, body, job, or whatever else it is you think you need to have a “perfect” life, you’ll likely find something else that you just have to have. There’s always another thing waiting behind the thing you currently want.

  • Ask yourself if you truly believe these things are the answer to your happiness and, if not, think about what is.

Lie 5 – I’m different from everyone else

A lot of people believe there’s something wrong with them. And it’s not just something wrong with them, it’s something uniquely wrong with them.

● Everyone is unique, but the similarities between people are far greater than the differences. You’re not that different, and it’s unlikely there’s anything wrong with you that can’t be managed.

Lie 6 – It’s too late for me

For some things, it might be too late. But it’s not too late for plenty of things. Waiting longer than you should have can make a lot of things less convenient, but that’s not the same as being too late. It just means you’re going to have to work harder or endure more inconvenience.

● There’s a penalty for waiting, but it’s rarely insurmountable.

Lie 7 – The timing isn’t right

The timing is never right, and it’s never going to be right. Each day that you wait is another day of delay. You’re not going to live forever, and life never follows your plans anyway. Just do it.

  • Starting today is always better than starting tomorrow.

Why do we tell ourselves these lies? We lie to ourselves to feel better in the now. Telling ourselves that we’ll start losing weight on the first of the month puts our minds at ease and allows us to eat poorly until that start date. If we blame others for our challenges, we can convince ourselves that it isn’t our fault.

The lies you tell yourself make you your own worst enemy and stop you from making progress in your life. Be honest and give yourself a chance!

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